sivatonight ([info]sivatonight) wrote,
@ 2008-02-14 14:31:00
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Nighttime Routine
The other night, I decided to put Céleste to bed. I said that I would try to just lay her down and see if she would fall asleep on her own. So I laid her down in her little bed beside me, talked to her and tried to soothe her to sleep. I told myself that I didn't want her to get used to having to be rocked or held to fall asleep.

After a few minutes she started to fuss, and then cry a little. I kept talking to her in low, soothing tones, telling her how we had a great day but now it was time to sleep. And as I looked at her, with her tiny fists batting the air and a little tear sliding down her cheek, I told myself "Screw this!" and I picked her up, rocked her, sang to her and she promptly fell asleep.

She's only going to be a baby for a little while. It won't be long before I'm sure she won't want me to nuzzle her and hold her and sing her a silly song. So for that night, I did those things, and I enjoyed it with all of my heart.

I love this girl.



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[info]revjim
2008-02-14 08:42 pm UTC (link)
You're right. Maybe it's selfish but I don't care. When she's older we'll deal with how to get her to sleep when she won't let us rock her any more.

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[info]xaminmo
2008-02-14 10:55 pm UTC (link)
Plus, I think she's young enough that you don't have to worry (yet) about whether it "teaches her that crying will get her what she wants."

I don't know when the "threshold" is for "tough love".

Now, when she's almost 5, and still crawls OVER you, kicks you in the face, and wedges between you two in bed... you might think a little differently.

Not that we have that problem.

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[info]whatgiraffe
2008-02-14 09:28 pm UTC (link)
French or American song? She is an amazing little girl - so happy for the two of you!

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[info]sivatonight
2008-02-15 04:57 pm UTC (link)
A french song that I used to sing in choir in high school. It's about a mom that sings a song to her daughter (how appropriate!) about a sailor. I wonder if there's an english translation of it floating on the internet somewhere ... hmm. Now you've got me thinking. :)

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[info]rubyawake
2008-02-14 10:26 pm UTC (link)
Good for following your mama instincts. Luke is almost a year old, and I STILL rock him to sleep. He's not going to fit into my arms forever, and I don't much buy into the whole sleep training business. The thing is, I don't know any 25 year olds who need rocked to sleep, so eventually, they must grow out of it.:)

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[info]soleil_du_matin
2008-02-15 01:40 am UTC (link)
fancy seeing you here!

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[info]rubyawake
2008-02-15 02:46 am UTC (link)
Why hello!:)

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[info]sivatonight
2008-02-15 04:58 pm UTC (link)
Very good point. :)

She's just so small, it seems just not right to let her sit there and cry and cry ... she has no idea what's going on! All she knows is that she's not happy and she wants someone to fix it and no one is doing that. That just seems mean.

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[info]vaxocentric
2008-02-15 04:56 am UTC (link)
Awww
That's really sweet

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Good for you!
[info]jaclyn
2008-02-15 05:21 am UTC (link)
Have you read much about attached parenting(AP)?

I'm a firm believer. I'll never let my baby "cry it out", I'll never think they are maniuplating me for more milk, more snuggles, more whatever. People try to teach 'lessons' to their babies, when really, they are babies for criiisssakes!! They don't have the capability to think the way we think, or learn the way we learn.

I always think back to the animal kingdom where the little animals are always snuggled up next to momma for milk or comfort and that lasts quite a while, until the animal feels 'ready' to explore or move on it's own.

I'm a member of [info]attachedparents and there are several books out there available as well if you're interested.

One website I like: http://www.attachmentparenting.org/artwhatis.shtml

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Re: Good for you!
[info]sivatonight
2008-02-15 05:03 pm UTC (link)
I know a little about it. Some of it I completely agree with, and other parts don't seem to fit me too well.

It's hard when the "older generation" keeps saying "You've got to let her cry a little!" "She needs to fall asleep on her own now or she never will!" After a while I come to wonder if they're not right. I mean, my parents let me cry it out and I turned out fine ...

But then I look at my little girl, and she's sitting in her bed crying, with no idea why someone isn't coming to help her and fix what's wrong, and it seems so unfair. She doesn't know the difference! She just wants some love and closeness and how can I deny her that? After being snuggled so nice and warm in my womb for 9 months, and now she's in this big, cold, scary world ... hell, I'd want to be held and rocked and sang to as well.

I bookmarked the link you provided, and am going to check out that community. Thanks again for being so full of knowledge, and sharing it with me. :)

xoxoxox

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my turn
[info]pleasefindaseat
2008-02-16 12:53 am UTC (link)
I'll can't wait to rock her when i get there. I'll for sure be doing my share of rocking her.

And i think it's fine to rock her as long as you want. I think you'll know at what point she dosen't need it anymore...

I mean once in a while we all would LOVE to be rocked to sleep.:)

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